Counseling Support

for Pastor’s Wives

What We Offer

Pastor’s wives need others who can come alongside them and support them in their unique role. We offer safe, confidential and personalized on-site or virtual care counseling for pastor’s wives and pastoral couples.

The expectations and loneliness are too much…

Lonely, overwhelmed, exhausted, anxiety

You manage to hold it all together at church even though you’re suffering inside. You don’t know who to trust or how to build friendships when everyone already has their people and your husband is their pastor.

Disappointing or upsetting others doesn’t feel like an option so you say “yes” to things you want to say “no” to trying to avoid conflict or awkward conversations. You feel the weight of how your actions may reflect on your husband. You parent out of fear or obligation of how the pastor’s family is “supposed” to live.

The future is uncertain and you try to either avoid it or you lose sleep trying to prepare for it… it’s exhausting. You feel out of control.

Counseling can help!

It’s long past time to start therapy. You’ve learned how to “just deal” with the expectations and loneliness and suffer in silence. But you could feel so much better if you could manage those feelings of guilt and shame. That’s where we come in. Take control of what’s yours: your peace of mind, your time, and your energy.

Counseling takes a look at your personal history to tailor a treatment plan that’s ideal for you and your goals. We focus on coping skills, identify the root of the problem, and practice confidence-building and communication strategies to get you from burned out to burning brightly as the woman you were designed to be!

Imagine life with less stress and expectations…

It IS possible to live with more peace and joy having healthier ways to manage stress, to live in confidence and without carrying the weight of everyone else’s expectations. Life with counseling can look like:

  • Higher self-esteem

  • Confidence that you can handle difficult situations

  • Less worry about upsetting people or making them like you

  • Skills to set boundaries and communicate expectations with less shame, guilt or fear of the other person

  • Improved coping skills to slow down anxious thoughts

  • A healthier and more beautiful opinion of yourself and your capabilities

  • Less sleepless nights

  • Finding space for more joy and connection

Areas of Expertise

Anxiety in Women

  • Stress

  • Overthinking

  • Struggle with boundaries

  • Perfectionism

  • Relationship Challenges

  • Professional or pastoral burnout

Emphasis on Setting Boundaries

  • Learn to say “no”

  • Honesty and transparency in relationships

  • Reducing shame, guilt and fear

  • Learn when to walk away

  • Set healthy expectations with yourself and others

  • Learn clear steps to set boundaries

FAQ’s

What others have wondered about counseling

  • Feelings of overwhelm or anxiety are normal and can manifest from a variety of things. Whether you went through something traumatic or not, people can still deal with unwanted feelings. There is often an underlying layer of grief that we don’t realize we are experiencing and haven’t processed it.

  • Healing takes time. Often, people find relief in each session as they start to put pieces together. In between sessions, you may still feel stress or anxious as more questions arise—this is normal. But therapy is tailored to your needs, even if it takes a long time to see change. While counseling is designed to help you improve, there are no guarantees.

  • We can meet based on your availability. I recommend starting off weekly, usually the same time and day each week. When you’re making and sustaining the progress you’d like, we will discuss scaling down to every other week (or as desired) until you’re ready to terminate therapy.